tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post6770856741231355289..comments2023-10-03T11:41:21.191+01:00Comments on The Truth About Lies: #643Jim Murdochhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-27468937741041086632016-06-30T03:35:13.841+01:002016-06-30T03:35:13.841+01:00Yeah, Kass, I used to believe in one true love but...Yeah, <b>Kass</b>, I used to believe in one true love but not any more. I used to think love so important too that it was the worst thing in the world not to be loved but it’s all a matter of degree. If I have a hundred good friends—fat chance!—but no wife or lover would that be such a bad thing? Friendship is a form of love (<i>philia</i>) but what are the ratios? Is <i>eros</i> better than <i>philia</i> or <i>storge</i>? The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said that we expend too much energy on “falling in love” and need to learn more how to “stand in love.” I suspect this is the kind of love Carrie and I share now, mature love, what the Greeks know as <i>pragma</i>. It’s not how I would’ve put it but I get it. Romantic love is all about attaining. What’s next? Maintaining. Very different ballgame.Jim Murdochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-83863127447651634622016-06-29T18:34:51.095+01:002016-06-29T18:34:51.095+01:00Even without proximity to another, we get to keep ...Even without proximity to another, we get to keep the love we feel (and in my case, turn it into a story that is deeply dramatic and pseudo-meaningful.Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.com