tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post9048113365290670459..comments2023-10-03T11:41:21.191+01:00Comments on The Truth About Lies: #544Jim Murdochhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-17548989940984643542015-07-11T19:21:05.053+01:002015-07-11T19:21:05.053+01:00Oh Jim, I love your small, busty mother.
When my ...Oh Jim, I love your small, busty mother.<br /><br />When my dad was in the hospital and close to death, I was the only one available to hold the wide-mouthed quart container to his groin, after positioning the necessary equipment into it. It was an out-of-body experience....so I understand how Carrie must have felt.Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-62198572410479479572015-07-11T01:54:31.196+01:002015-07-11T01:54:31.196+01:00My wife has described a similar experience, Kass, ...My wife has described a similar experience, <b>Kass</b>, in dealing with her elderly father (he’s in his nineties) who’s suffering from dementia, is incontinent and becoming increasingly helpless. It’s unfortunate that the reproductive organs and the excretory organs are so close together; you can’t really deal with the one without coming in contact with the other and no matter how much you try to distance yourself from what you’re doing the moment you realise you’re cupping your father’s balls in your hand must count as one of life’s most surreal and uncomfortable experiences. I never had to go through any of that. The only comparable experience I had was when I was in the garden pulling weeds from the lawn. My mother (who was in her late seventies at the time) insisted on coming out to help. So there we were the two of us bent over pulling weeds and I turned around and thought I was looking at my mother’s knees. It wasn’t. It was her breasts hanging down from under her top. My mother was a wee woman but she had enormous breasts, like two torpedoes. That was fun asking her to sort herself out. Much to my surprise she shrugged the whole thing off. I thought she’d have been mortified or even angry with me but no.Jim Murdochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-31648155342266948612015-07-10T16:36:10.639+01:002015-07-10T16:36:10.639+01:00You know I am drawn to your poems, especially as t...You know I am drawn to your poems, especially as they tell a story or make me uncomfortable.<br /><br />I was helping my 101-year-old Aunt undress last night at her assisted living home and noted how odd it was to see her bare chest. It never would have happened in our previous relationship. She was a little odd and distant and very proper. How terrible it must be to have your body so compromised that you have to give it all up to be helped. Before he died, my dad used to say of his decline, "Oh, the ignominity (sounds better than ignominy - more syllables) of it all!"Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-5661726004040373682015-07-09T12:06:10.279+01:002015-07-09T12:06:10.279+01:00Oh, oh, that is so interesting, Joe. It’s not the ...Oh, oh, that is <i>so</i> interesting, <b>Joe</b>. It’s not the first time I’ve heard of ‘character’ and ‘stamp’ being connected—“So to have God’s name written on your forehead would indicate that you have his character stamped on your mind”—but on checking I learned this: <br /><br /><i>The ultimate source of character is Greek </i>kharaktḗr<i>, a derivative of the verb </i>kharássein<i> ‘sharpen, engrave, cut’, which in turn came from </i>kharax<i> ‘pointed stake’. </i>Kharaktḗr<i> meant ‘engraved mark’, and hence was applied metaphorically to the particular impress or stamp which marked one thing as different from another – its ‘character’. The word came into English via Latin </i>character<i> and Old French </i>caractere<i>. Characteristic followed in the 17th century.</i><br /><br />This is what I both love and hate about words, the fact that they are so imprecise. Why do we bother with them? But either way you’re right, a character is the <i>tool</i> and not what is produces irrespective of whether it’s stamped or scratched. The word ‘character’ appears in my current novel 157 times—it’s a hard one to find synonyms for—and now I really want to graft in something about engraving and/or stamping so thank you for that.<br /><br />By ‘cypher’—Middle English, from Medieval Latin <i>cifra</i>, from Arabic <i>ṣifr</i> empty, cipher, zero—I meant ‘encoded’: you have to fill in the blanks. But it’s never a simple matter of decoding. The best example I can think of is the Tetragrammaton YHWH and just look at the fun people have had over the years trying to work out what vowels go with that. Is there a right answer? God alone knows. In my book he’s called ‘Joe Hoover’. Close enough. <br /><br />I’m not sure why you think I’ve got something to teach you. Your Vander Meer book does exactly this. Why you can’t see this is possibly because those blanks you’ve left us have already been filled in your head. You <i>know</i> what the poems mean.Jim Murdochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-76837334031947602992015-07-09T01:36:25.619+01:002015-07-09T01:36:25.619+01:00"my characters are cyphers"—by which I t..."my characters are cyphers"—by which I think you mean they are what they are in the moment offered by the poem. Yes? So we're all cyphers, then, at least to others, often enough to ourselves. I'm sure you've done or said something and wondered, "Why did I do that? Why did I say that?" The "I" being the cypher you put forward in that moment. Maybe what we call our "character" is just a pattern of cypher-moments. I read in my Oxford that "character" derives from the Greek "kharaktēr," meaning "a stamping tool." This fascinates me. The character is not the stamped image, but the <i>tool</i> that stamps it. I don't know where I'm going with this, or whether there's an "I" that's going, or whether "going" is the right word. And yet ... your cyphered woman is <i>there</i>, I can almost see her (filling in the details around her stamped image). One of the many things I love about your poems: the way they invite us to participate in the fulfillment of the characters. We have to put ourselves in their place. How I wish I could write that way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com