tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post2075533243238213620..comments2023-10-03T11:41:21.191+01:00Comments on The Truth About Lies: #576Jim Murdochhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-284269407922389842015-09-22T18:27:40.954+01:002015-09-22T18:27:40.954+01:00I was fascinated by the notion of pheromones when ...I was fascinated by the notion of pheromones when I learned about them, <b>Kass</b>, but the older I’ve got the more I’ve begun to suspect that a great many of the so-called decisions we make have very little to do with us. Free will is illusory. The best illustration is the old joke that men think with their dicks. Which we do. It’s pathetic but it’s true. When I was with F. at the start I could hardly hear myself think for Wee Jimmy and his urges. It took years before I could stand back and honestly say how I felt about her. The novelty had to wear off and that took years. When I talk about depth in this poem I’m not talking about it in a good way. Deep is dark. Lust is selfish and, for a long time, I would have to say I was in lust with F. I deluded myself it was love but love had little to do with it.Jim Murdochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12786388638146471193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6327348657265652781.post-59349334693213218902015-09-21T17:03:18.426+01:002015-09-21T17:03:18.426+01:00Jim, you're right, I do find this interesting....Jim, you're right, I <i>do</i> find this interesting. Sometimes, the word (or words) get in the way or inaccurately redefine the 'undefinable' (trite word concerning love). Do we hate it because of the sound? The rock or country star pronunciation, LuhhhVE? Remember Woody Allen's circumnavigation of actually saying it in <i>Annie Hall</i>? "Love is, is too weak a word for what I feel - I lurve you, you know, I loave you, I luff you, two F's, yes I have to invent, of course I - I do, don't you think I do?"<br /><br />As for the volitional aspect of love, M. Scott Peck dealt with this in a trendy book, <i>The Road Less Traveled</i> in the seventies, saying, "For children love is a feeling; for adults, it is a decision." I remember everyone quoting this and assuming it was the latest, greatest insight.<br /><br />It's interesting that you find (or found) pheromonal expressions <b>deeper</b>. Does being ruled by our chemicals create a deeper attachment or maybe one with more of an obsessive, compulsive quality considering how deeply sexual hormones seem to embed in the limbic area of our brains?Kasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05233330248952156754noreply@blogger.com